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Reframing Anger in ADD/Autism
Anger, when observed in individuals with autism or ADHD, can appear sudden or disproportionate to the triggering event. However, beneath the surface, it is often a deeply nuanced emotional response tied to their unique neurological wiring, unmet needs, and the challenges they face in navigating a world not designed with their differences in mind.
A Broader Look at the Roots of Anger
At its core, anger is a secondary emotion — one that arises in response to more vulnerable feelings like fear, frustration, shame, or sadness. For individuals with autism or ADHD, the primary triggers for anger often stem from situations where their needs, perspectives, or abilities clash with societal norms or expectations. These experiences can result in repeated cycles of invalidation, confusion, and helplessness.
Emotional Dysregulation and Neurological Factors
Both autism and ADHD involve differences in how the brain processes and regulates emotions. The amygdala, which plays a central role in emotional reactivity, can be more sensitive in these individuals, resulting in heightened responses to stimuli that others might perceive as minor. Additionally, the prefrontal cortex, which is responsible for impulse control and decision-making, may not effectively “step in” to modulate these emotional reactions. This creates a situation…
